Learning to Say No
This semester, I have learned to say no. I’ve always had a hard time saying no because I love to be super involved and busy, but recently, I’ve learned that “survival mode” tends to be my go-to lifestyle. So, if you are anything like me, learning to say no and prioritize the important things is essential to a successful college life.
So, are you too busy? Like I said earlier if you are in the constant state of “survival” and can’t remember the last time you felt “caught up” this is a major sign that you should reevaluate your schedule and make some changes. In addition, other signs of busy include: you can’t remember the last time you ate a meal without multitasking, went to bed on time, woke up not tired, or had three or four items on your to-do list that never quite get done.
I am guilty of all these things and have learned the art of saying no. Here are some of my tips and tricks:
1. Lose the fear of what others will think if you say no. No one knows what you need, and you should oversee your own time.
2. Respectfully decline opportunities that don’t fit your passions. It’s okay to decline an opportunity if it’s something you don’t think will add value to your life. Strive to find ones that you’re passionate about or things that you enjoy doing.
3. Saying no is not rude and you can even formulate it into a positive statement. For example, instead of just saying no, try saying one of the following: I appreciate the invite, but no thank you; I would love to, but….; maybe next time; thanks for thinking of me…
These tips will help you take control of your life and prioritize the important events in your life.